5 Essential Parenting Tips | Supernanny

 it was time for mum and the boys to get out and have some fun so I set up a waterslide for them all in the backyard Ryan please come here and put this on your nose the one of the rules to go outside was it all three of the kids had to have sunscreen on oh do you want to come head I just pause squeeze in your hat don't let on that yeah when you decide to put sunscreen on then you can come out Ryan Diem ought to put some cream on his face you won't be allowed to play unless he did Ryan listen to me finance man and also okay I understand you don't want either listen to me that's your choice but you're not going on the waterslide if if you don't put any on your face there is a technique we're going to use called actively ignoring your child actively ignoring your child teaches them but you won't reward them for their bad behavior Ryan tried to get her attention by hitting her on her bottom of a baseball cap and shouting mum and she was very good she just ignored it she moved away from him she gave all her attention to Garrett and Hunter ah he's doing it showing that little boy over there that he's not getting your attention when he misbehaves okay hey wait stirs way to cool Ryan over okay and say to if you want to have fun with one of us that puts us on cream cream of your face and you can come out of play verse love I want to talk to you over here for a minute man if you want to have fun with us out here and play then you have to go in and put sunscreen on I don't work SPF 35 this is what I talked about compromise of the pair of you the pair of you go in the house and have a look at the creams that you've got okay so we can see what kid creams there are to put on your face he made a decision out of two creams such as this what let itself as big boy there you go put it on his face and then we had a resolve ryan was then able to go outside and have fun mom was just standing back watching but she needed to get in there and start having fun with the boys intuition in yourself in your tribe it's good sweetie I thought I was just going outside to watch and ended up getting right in the middle of it I just loved it I loved seeing mom out there today in the backyard it did start to become fun and enjoyable especially when all three of the kids got in on the action with me this morning I arrived nice and early to start the rise and shine technique where I found at Danielle and Frank both pretty dead to say the least the riser shine technique is to make sure that morning's run smooth and are organized the night before the children need to choose their clothes and the alarms need to be set in the morning the parents need to pre wake up their children and that is to open up the door ajar and to put a soft lamp on and then to gently stir the children to let them know it's time to get up once the children have woke up its then for them to take the responsibility in making sure that they get themselves stressed washed and ready to leave well he dressed yourself today job how I didn't know what to do this morning because Frank actually dressed himself I had time to like just wake up for his first attempt he managed to get himself up dressed and had his bag ready to get on that school bus well done and it was mom's turn to wake up Skyler and as far as Danielle was concerned it was like brace yourself and kennen nervous I don't be like fighting with her this morning so what you gonna do that fight or not I'm not know this guy so she took a great big deep breath and off she went into Skylar's room and Skyler did not budge come on baby and wake up okay got a couple minutes for your alarm goes off done the blinds the lamp on sit in the beginning I was like jiminy crickets here we go again I don't even want to begin so the alarm clock went off but Scarlett didn't budge at all Skyler come on honey we have to go to school I want you to put on the clothes that you chose last night come on okay pull Pat the duvet cover everyone in I'm going on in she's a brush her hair so she tells us she's not getting addressed not brushing her hair about the room five minutes then they come back in Schuyler I'd like to see you get dressed for me sweetheart and then I want you to go brush your hair okay oh and I know you can do it well that's your choice Schuyler you want to go to school in your pajamas at your choice I can sure come and give mommy a cool when you got yourself dress come and give mommy a car at the door when you got yourself dressed so I can see okay okay that's good then yes relax what I want to do is let her understand that you are sticking to your guns okay mum stood her ground but Scylla was not ready to compromise Oh is she coming out to you or you coming is she said she was gonna get dress and come out okay lo and behold for the first time Scylla actually got dressed by herself you look great you did that all by yourself fantastic and great but um this is the first morning that Danielle I stuck to her guns and meant what she said and followed through I think just getting her up in the morning without a battle to go to school is success in itself hey Skylar I'm really proud of you Oh Ashley was having so much fun that mum thought she might throw a fit when it was time to leave so I decided to arm man with some tips to avoid this we're gonna be the speaking o'clock alright so we give him a warn in all ways okay the speaking o'clock give them a time in which everything's going to wrap up when we're going to leave halfway through remind them off that time you have six minutes and we're leaving when Joel told me it was time to start doing the countdown and start rounding up the kids I thought oh this is not gonna go over well Ashley three more minutes Ashley three more minutes she just ran off we got down to the three minute mark and I told them Ashley ran from me I was like it's gonna be bad and I'm gonna be embarrassed yeah get yourself ready and then at least then they're not never waiting for you when the time is up to make sure that she's ready first and then able to click the kids all together Ashley it's time to go I was very nervous about telling Ashley we're gonna be leaving I was waiting for an eruption of a tantrum it's time to go let's go we'll come back another day reassure the children they are gonna come back another time and enjoy themselves if the ultimate happens where they do end up having a meltdown take the child by the hand and remove them from that circumstance shoes and socks and all you rounded them all out and then you gave them expectations for their behavior that you wanted to see and we have free kids with the coats and hats on and ready to go and throw a temper tantrum you did well you think you that worked Wow oh my she didn't have a tantrum and it felt good not to drag her out of there kicking and screaming and it was a big relief that wow you know we can do these things now you did very good today what I wanted to do was decrease the amount of aggression in Andrew Andrew needs to be taught that she has two other sisters in her family that she has to share with so I brought in a shopping game for mommy to play with all three girls Andrew Leah Jesse we're gonna play shocks today there were two shopping carts one cash register and mom had to decide who was playing what role I think it would probably be a very good idea if Leah or Jesse was the cashier first I encouraged Barbara to make sure that Andrew wasn't the cashier that she wanted to be because Andrew always wants to gather own way and it's important that Andrew realizes that she can't get away all the time okay honey we're all gonna rotate Manny okay no I mean you know Andrew first Jesse's gonna be the cashier Oh gonna rotate Jessie you're the cashier okay so you can be just like especially at the store okay hey you don't shout at your sister Oh address Batman are Barbara that has got to stop so what do I say it's that corner over to you say to a do not talk to me like that Andrew you need to look at me I don't want to right now Andrew all right but keep calm Andrew you're in control speak calm regard to Andy's mommy's trying to talk to what I'm trying to talk to you I need you to listen to me Barbara's really struggling Andrew was totally disrespectful towards Barbara I had to address the situation myself that behavior is no good and that behavior will make you go and sit on that naughty store you better learn just a talk and ask mummy do you understand me what thank you very much now she's gonna pray when Andrew was pulled aside and Joe was talking to her it was very difficult I've never really seen her face look like it looked Andrew does need to have respect for a mother and Barbara needs to make sure that Andrew knows exactly who's in charge so we put the food back all right onto the shelves as well and then you designate you discuss the consequence start again everybody's shopping this is a supermarket got Lea plan with the bags and you're organizing stacks of food and Jesse dealing with the money guessing are they good I never once were nice thank you very good bye thanks for shopping safe driving Schuyler Mama's cooking Danielle started to prepare dinner and a Skylar wouldn't let her do so she wanted to be picked up constantly she's used to screaming no you'll pick her up what you know is it's perfectly fine if you pick her up you're doing is you're teaching Skylar every time she behaves this way it wants you to just pick up Danielle couldn't fair Skylar's crying then she broke down what's this bar what is it that you feel okay you feel bad because you are not letting her have her own way who's been a good mother right now and getting dinner on the go for the whole family mommy can't hold you right now I'm cooking okay it gave me a lot of strength after there I break down easily with all the crying and chaos and running and I just feel like it's never gonna work her wooden antenna if she does it again I'm behind you watching my daughter taking it so tough just wanted to grab her scoop her up you need to say here it was very hard in the beginning I don't think I would have been able to get Skylar to stay in the naughty chair by myself now my god I'm out Danielle bring it back to the area and so you powder helped me which you need to say sorry for your behavior before you can help mummy you can help mommy you need to say you're sorry first for help you acted earlier once you apologized you can help me a little yeah Skyler would not apologize and it just dragged on hot Danielle was very persistent and she became increasingly confident do you need to say to mommy what do you need to say to mommy you can come at a time out when you apologize what do you need to say to me no thank you me when Skyler admits she was sorry hallelujah but the chair works I'm really really proud of you well done they don't listen I came far since with the kids in the pool and a nanny not in control I started to get worried about these kids safety all three of our kids hit Farley stop hitting I wish that we could somehow get our children to calm down stop yelling stop fighting